Some Final Thoughts on Being Thirty

In a couple days, I will be graduating from the milestone age of 3-0 to the just-another-thirty-something age of 3-1.


It’s not a profound age like 18 or 21 or 30, but, still, I am eager for the new beginning.  I guess 30 is beginning to feel stale.

A year ago I began a series called, “Thirty Thoughts and Turning Thirty” and like most projects with a deadline, I have waited until the last minute to finish.

It’s been a great year with even greater victories so let’s finish out 3-0 with these thoughts (and vow never to write thirty things about anything ever again):


Some things are just not meant to be.

For instance, I have never been able to spell occassionally.

And I still cannot spell ocassionally.

And I probably never will learn to spell ocaisonaly.



As a kid, I hated going to school because I just wanted to stay home.

When I got to college, I chose to major in Education so that I could get holidays and summers off (to stay home).

When I graduated college, I worked part-time jobs so that I could spend most of the day at home.

And now, after landing a good, full-time job, I still just really want to be home.

Why do I want to stay at home?

Home is where I can create, where I can flit from garden to kitchen to sewing machine, where my time is my own.

I guess for me, there really is no place like home.

(So can I please go home now?) 


After thirty years, I have finally allowed myself to spend the extra couple bucks on my favorite fabric softener.


Mmmmmm, Gain.

Good-smelling clothes are not a necessity…

…but it’s also not necessary to spend life only having what is necessary.



I always thought that as I grew older, the dreams and desires I had as a kid would grow weaker.

On the contrary, they only grow stronger.


Oh, heck, why not one more thought to grow on?


I grew up believing that the strongest people were those who were the most independent.

Needless to say, I spent the majority of my life feeling very weak.

Therefore, I am so grateful to every friend and relative who ever loved me or, if anything, was patient with me.

Dare I say it??  I’m everything I am because you loved me.

(Stop laughing)

Thirty-one…here we go!

Thirty Thoughts on Turning 30: #26 My First Gray Hair

My first gray hair.

I knew it was bound to happen sooner or later…just like I knew I was bound to lose my first tooth, start puberty and gain the Freshman Fifteen.

I’m actually quite proud of this hair.  It’s gold and silver and shines like glitter in the light.  This strand is the prettiest thing my head has yet to produce.

It’s more of a unicorn hair than anything else, really.

To have made it to 30 before getting my first gray unicorn hair is really a miracle considering most of the women in my family started going gray in their late teens/early twenties:

But as beautiful as their white locks are, I’m not sure if I am ready to have my own just yet.  I mean, what if more come?  What will I do? I really hate the idea of using hair dye, but if you pluck a gray hair I’ve heard that ten grow back in its place!

Luckily, this hair came from a secluded spot at the back of my head.

That’s a good sign, right?

I mean, if this hair had sprouted from the top of my head, then that would mean that I was really turning gray, right?

No, I believe that this hair, as special as it is, is just a fluke.

It’s a fluke hair.

A fluke/magical/lucky/unicorn hair.



Thirty Thoughts on Turning 30: #25 The World’s Worst Sunglass Owner

In the thirty years I’ve been alive, I have learned how to drive, feed my family, pay my bills on time and grow tomatoes.  (Among other things.)

Unfortunately, I have not learned how to keep a pair of sunglasses.

Every pair that has ever come into my possession has been forgotten on the subway, lost in the river, sat on and/or destroyed beyond all recognition.

My corneas are very mad at me.

The first pair of sunglasses I ever paid for cost $12 at Burlington Coat Factory, and they were the best things I ever put on my face.

Three months later, I forgot them at the park.

I was so mad that from then on I decided I would never pay more than $6 on a pair of sunglasses.

A handful of lost six-dollar pairs later, I lowered the cap price to $1.

So far, I’ve had good luck keeping such cheap shades.   My last pair ($1 at a yard sale) lasted me 6 whole months!

Unfortunately, ever since I set them down at an IKEA in Houston last November, I’ve have gone through three more pairs of sunglasses.  That’s, like, a pair a month!

The first pair I left at my mom’s church.

The second got placed in my purse and, well, if you know the violent tempest that is a woman’s purse then you can see how this happened:

The final pair I am keeping as a way to teach myself a lesson:

They are broken and crooked and uncomfortable and, knowing my luck, they will be the one pair I manage to hold onto for eternity.

And so it goes with the worst sunglasses owner ever.

Thirty Thoughts on Turning 30: #24 Who I’d Eat Lunch With

This morning, as I was driving to work, “Can’t You Hear My Heart Beat” by Herman’s Hermits came on the radio.  Since this happy-jumpy song makes me feel happy and jumpy (in a good way), I turned the radio up and contentedly bebopped along.

And then, for no reason at all, I began to cry.

Big crocodile tears.

Big UNNECESSARY crocodile tears.

What’s going on here? I sobbed.

For some reason, hearing Can’t You Hear My Heart Beat made me imagine my Momma as a little girl.  (She must have been around 10 years old when the song came out.)

Suddenly, I wished very much to know 10-year-old Momma and mourned the fact that 10-year-old me would never get to play dolls or go on picnics with 10-year-old Momma.

(I think we would have been good friends.)

Then I realized that I’ve finally decided on my answer to the popular ice-breaker question:

“If you could have lunch with any person from history, who would it be?”

(I take ice-breaker questions very seriously, in case you were wondering.)

I would love to have lunch with the kid version of my Momma!

We’d munch on peanut-butter-and-jelly sandwiches and chat about our favorite cartoons.  Later, we’d ride our bikes through puddles and laugh as loud as we could.

Momma’s 10-year-old laugh.

That’s a sound I would have loved the chance to hear.

But for now, Herman’s Hermits will have to suffice.

My 3-year-old Momma

Thirty Thoughts on Turning 30: #23 Victory in a Cereal Box

Last week, I had a small victory in self-worth.

It involved a box of cereal…

A couple weeks ago, I was in the grocery store staring longingly at a box of Raisin Nut Bran.

“I wish I could afford Raisin Nut Bran,” I lamented.

Raisin Nut Bran has always been one of my favorite cereals, but I have never, ever purchased a box of it.  In my mind, I cannot justify spending three dollars and fifty cents on a box of cereal.

And yet, I still really, really want it.

As I left the cereal aisle that day with a less expensive box of cereal in my cart, a little voice in back of my head whispered, “You CAN afford Raisin Nut Bran!”

I’ve gotten really good at ignoring this little voice, but for some reason, her words resonated with me that day and I couldn’t get them out of my head.

“Why DON’T I buy the cereal I really want?” I asked myself.  “I have a job!  I can afford three dollars and fifty cents!   Am I not worth three dollars and fifty cents?”

I guess not, considering the fact that I’ve loved Raisin Nut Bran for 25 years and yet have never purchased a box for myself because it is fifty cents more than I think cereal should cost.

Ten, five and even one year ago, I still would have found some reason as to why I should not waste money on frivolity.

But on last week’s grocery trip, I decided that I was worth the waste:

The next morning, I snuggled up in bed with the Clyde Journal and a big ol’ bowl of Raisin Nut Bran.

And I enjoyed every bite.


I got so carried away in my savoring that I forgot to leave Baby Girl some milk.

Sorry, kitty.

Now that I have overcome the Raisin Nut Bran brain block, I think I am finally ready to purchase other frivolous products I’ve had my eye on such as Bonne Maman jam:

And gallon-sized Ziploc freezer bags:

And Viva paper towels.

And organic milk.

Thirty Thoughts on Turning 30: #21 My Nerdy-Looking Guy

Now that I am 30 years old, I feel more wise and intuitive than I did when I was…not 30.

Nevertheless, the wisdom I had as a child proved equally, if not more, pure and true….

When I was 8 years old, I told my Momma that I wanted to marry a “nerdy-looking guy.”

I don’t remember telling Momma that.

But like a good Momma, she reminded me.

Looking back, I DID have a thing for nerdy-looking guys!

Nerdy-looking guys like Dr. Ehrlich from St. Elsewhere:

And Roger Radcliffe from 101 Dalmations:

And Niles Crane from Frasier:

It was true to me then and it is true to me now:

Bifocals + Blonde Hair + Big Nose + Slender Frame = GrrrrrOWLLL!!

Needless to say, when I was 22, I fell head-over-heels for Mr. Smith from Sugarland, Texas:

Today, Mr. Smith turns 30 years old and he is more handsome than ever!


Hope that thirty feels as good as it looks.  😉

Thirty Thoughts on Turning 30: #17 Leilani the Terrible

Once upon a time…I was terrible.

I know.

I, too, find this hard to believe.

But it’s true.

And I have proof:

Above is the drawing that my long-suffering mother sketched of her 3-year-old daughter, “10 minutes after housecleaning.”

A destructive she-devil who strangles cats, breaks furniture and urinates on herself.

This is how Momma used to view me.

When I was younger, I used to obsesses over this photo. Sobbing big crocodile tears, I assumed that Momma had taken the time to draw (and LAMINATE) such a horrible picture of me because she didn’t love me anymore.

I always feared that Momma would stop loving me.

I also feared that, one day, she would run away.

One morning, my fear came true!

After waking up, I began my usual search for Momma.  Most mornings, I would find her in the bathroom or her closet or in the kitchen.

This morning, however, she was not in any of those places.

She was also not in the living room or my sisters’ rooms.

She wasn’t ANYWHERE!!

Panicked, I began to cry. “So this is it,” I thought, “Momma FINALLY runned away.”

Overwhelmed with grief, I ran across the street to my grandparents’ house to break the news.  Grandfather picked me up, wiped my tears away with a warm, damp washcloth and carried me back home…where Momma was waiting for me!!

Apparently, she had been out feeding the chickens in the henhouse the whole time.


Now that I am older and no longer strangle cats or pee in my pants (except for when Lisa is around), I appreciate the humor in Momma’s drawing.

I imagine her sitting at the kitchen table, exhausted after a long day of mothering.  Suddenly, she finds herself sketching the wretchedness of her toddler on the back of an old menu, laughing to herself because, at this point, it’s all she can do to keep from running away.